June 1st comes my birthday, I was pretty much excited for the day until I remembered glimpse of last birthday and previous than that when I got birthday wishes with one question ‘ Beta Shaadi kab kar rahi ho? ‘ and this question always made me feel how can I get married to a stranger just like that? Hence, Writing this letter to my dear unknown future husband.
My Dear Future Husband,
I hope you are loving as you are caring. I hope you you have an unconditional love with your mother along with your family. I hope you are intelligent to the point where you can teach and motivate to learn and be more but not stubborn enough to grow from me.
I hope you are as handsome as you are honest. I hope you have sense of humour that could move mountains on days when I am not able to pull it together.
I hope you protect my heart as if it were your own. I hope you love me and respect me enough to not walk out of door when we have any disagreement, confrontation.
Last but not least, I hope our love is living proof that real love does exists!
– Your and only Yours ❤
Sometimes when I hear people speak about love, I think they are romanticizing love in its ideal form. According to Nicholas Sparks,Walk to Remember, “Love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins, but delights in the truth. It is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes.” So may be the only eligible person for love is ‘Mr Nobody’?? Because What the heck,None of us are always patient or kind ;& Jealousy out of the question.
Further Nicholas Sparks has also said, “Without suffering, there’d be no compassion.” ; and in today’s world there will be minimum ten breakups by the time individual understands what is ‘suffering’ & another ten breakup before he/she gets what is ‘compassion’.
Love indeed starts like a cool and romantic breeze but the question is does it last like that even for three months? In a country like India, Women are little conservative when it comes to LOVE. She has lot of things in her head before even she thinks to get committed to a guy. Here, Men propose women, they start with very noble note saying they are the one who will take care and give everything their woman wants for entire life. It takes only few months or max one year (if love is extra-patient!) for a women to complain to their men that ‘you have changed’(for Years this statement haven’t modified!) After Marriage, Mostly satire quotes are released expressing ‘He was happily married but his wife wasn’t‘.
All I have been trying to understand that what is love exactly then? All the definitions of Love fail after ‘the sweet/initial period’ is over. what exactly a men should say when women says ‘you have changed’. or what Women should say when Men say,’All I expect from you is little understanding!’
As correctly said by Jennifer Paige, ‘She only sees what she wants to see,Love is blind, love is so misleading.'(Song-I am Sober)